Our favourite quotes:

You don't want a million answers as much as you want a few 'forever' questions. The same questions, asked again, bring you just the answers you need just the minute you need them. 

Richard Bach, Author

Bedtime is a special time, a time of transition. It is an opportunity for closure to one day and a preparation for the next. It is a small turning point in the natural rhythm that gives structure and meaning to life. With care and patience and awareness of our children’s needs, each bedtime can be its own celebration of love and life.

Barbara Coloroso,
A Pocket Guide to Kids are Worth It

The philosophy behind Little Stars Bedtime Cards

Unlike many parenting tools that help you to teach important lessons and values, Little Stars Bedtime Cards are designed to affirm positive qualities that already exist in your child. They help you to go beyond teaching and telling, to engaging and connecting with your child through the sharing of common positive experiences and emotions. 

The cards are used over and over again, as children want to revisit their favorites or those that have particular meaning for them. You may notice that as you child grows, new meaning can be found in the cards each time they are shared.  The cards are easily adapted and so you may find that there are times when you choose a card that may help to facilitate discussion on a particular topic.

The value of questions

We think that "big questions for little people" is a very important concept. When we have a specific lesson or message that we need to communicate, teaching or telling our child is very effective. However, when the goal is to connect and deepen our understanding of our child, questions about thoughts and feelings can be incredibly effective for the following kinds of reasons:

It becomes a two way conversation

It feels good when someone takes and interest you (even if you don’t have a lot to say)!  The very nature of asking questions is an expression of the desire to learn about the other person

There are no right or wrong answers when you are talking about thoughts and feelings

Your child will feel loved knowing that you care enough to ask the question and to listen to their response (again even if they don’t have a lot to say)

You see the world through your child’s lens and may end up talking about things you wouldn’t otherwise (you may be surprised to learn just how opinionated and observant your three year old really is!)

It keeps your attention focused on your child and children love to have a parents undivided attention even for just a short while

Children are naturally curious and while they love to answer questions, they may start to ask questions themselves which is lots of fun too.